And men (MEN, MEN, MEN) are to blame.
Natasha Gadinsky, 23, says she doesn’t have any regrets from her years in college. But the time she hooked up with a guy at Brown University does come close. After his own orgasm that night, she said, he showed no interest in her satisfaction.
Men tend to lose sexual interest after coming. That's why 100 percent of the free world recommends women come first. Try that.
The next time they got together, it happened again. He “didn’t even care,” said Ms. Gadinsky, a health care case manager in New York City, “I don’t think he tried at all.” He fell asleep immediately, leaving her staring at the ceiling.
Then you are sleeping with a guy who is both bad at sex and kind of a dick. It is not his fault you are having sex with him.
Like generations before them, many young women like Ms. Gadinsky are finding that casual sex does not bring the physical pleasure that men more often experience.
So this isn't a new problem? Why are we covering it? BREAKING: Millennials Endure Arduous Task of Living.
New research suggests why: Women are less likely to have orgasms during uncommitted sexual encounters than in serious relationships.
New research? I've known this for 150 years and I'm only 30.
At the same time, researchers say that young women are becoming equal partners in the hookup culture, often just as willing as young men to venture into sexual relationships without emotional ties.
So they are getting involved in it and are cognizant that it will not meet their needs? This is like buying a bottle of bleach and complaining to The New York Times that it doesn't taste like wine.
A survey of 600 college students led by Justin R. Garcia, an evolutionary biologist at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University and researchers at Binghamton University found that women were twice as likely to reach orgasm from intercourse or oral sex in serious relationships as in hookups.
Is this because they are sleeping with someone who cares about them and is emotionally vested in them being a happy, satisfied person? I DON'T KNOW.
… a survey of 24,000 students at 21 colleges over five years found that 42 percent of women had an orgasm during their last hookup involving intercourse, while 80 percent of men did.
I'm more astounded that 20 PERCENT of men didn't come during sex. That's insanely high. We should be researching this. Twenty! Also, it's as though making a man come is easy and making a woman come involves more than just up-and-down movement. Some girls like side-to-side.
By contrast, 74 percent of women in the survey said they had an orgasm the last time they had sex in a committed relationship.
Here's the money quote. Which I got to about 16 years ago.
“We attribute that to practice with a partner, which yields better success at orgasm, and we also think the guys care more in a relationship,” Dr. England said.
HOLY FUCKING SHIT GUYS!!!@! The article goes on to state that women may have trouble discussing their sexual needs with someone they don't know. Well… if you want an orgasm, but need to tell men precisely what to do to get an orgasm, but don't want to tell them what they need to do for you to achieve orgasm, you don't get to have an orgasm. SORRIES.
Vanessa Martini, 23, from Marin County, Calif., learned early on that most men she slept with casually would not intuit her needs. “I haven’t hooked up with anybody who was so cavalier as to just, like, not even care,” she said. “But I think most of them were somewhat baffled that it would require more than just them thrusting.”
That's because you are hooking up with 23-year-old dudes. Everyone sucks at sex early in life. Fun Fact: Your 20s are not the be-all, end-all of existence.
Ms. Martini said she was never taught how to have good sex, let alone how to ask for what she needs.
You were never taught how to ask for what you need? How are you talking to a reporter now and not dead of starvation at age two?
Communicating about those particulars is especially tricky in hookups. When one awkward exchange or misread text message could end the arrangement altogether, there’s a certain amount of pressure to tread softly.
No guy in the history of the world has ever broken up with a girl becuase she texted him “Go down on me tonight” or “I want you to fuck me until I come.” Try using that as an icebreaker. I guarantee it will at least start the conversation. Jesus Christ 20-somethings, get it together.