As you can see in the photo above and immediately below, ejaculating at the speed of sound isn’t exactly an attribute that most guys wear as a badge of honor. What you can also see is how different girls react to the situation. The girl up top is all like, “There, there, this was our first time and I believe you that it hasn’t happened to you before.” Meanwhile, the girl on the bottom is all like, “You call yourself a man? I can’t believe I stayed with you, Keith. You’re a fucking disgrace. I hate you.”
Or at least I assume is going on in those photos. Both stock photo models are probably just pretending to be banged up because they just received word that their grandma died, but all I see are three pump chumps and the women they’ve yet to satisfy. The brain works in mysterious ways, I suppose.
As it turns out, though, being a premature ejaculator might not mean that you’re a defective man. It may, in fact, mean that you’re more evolved than most dudes. Not in an awesome way like those of us born without wisdom teeth, but highly evolved nonetheless. That’s maybe something you can hang your hat on? Eh…probably not.
According to Mayo Clinic, as time passed, humans became the only species on earth who wanted to have longer sex. It wasn’t always that way. Banging it out for 10 hot seconds back in the day was how shit was done. You took your old lady into the bedroom, said “no thanks” to the idea of foreplay, jizzed super quick and then your wife cooked the game you caught while you protected the hut from dangerous animals. Then, nine months later, that sex resulted in a child. That’s not the process these days. Now, everyone wants to be satisfied sexually, we want to feel good about how long it takes us to jizz and how great we are at eating pussy and the absolute last thing we want from sex is kids, because kids suck.
Per Men’s Health:
Premature ejaculation curses one in three men nationally. That’s about 50 million anxiety-riddled guys thinking about baseball, or starting and stopping endlessly just to hold it together. Every time a guy has an orgasm quicker than he or his lady might have wanted, he feels like a failure.
“Only in human society is fast orgasm undesirable,” says Dr. Brian Steixner, M.D., Director of the Institute of Men’s Health at Jersey Urology Group in Atlantic City. “If we all had fifteen inch penises and could last two hours like porn stars, we would never have kids and our species wouldn’t survive. Lasting 10 seconds means more chances of kids—more offspring. Our species endures.”
“Every day I have to consider how to tell some [PE patients] that they don’t really have a problem,” Dr. Trost says.
The really serious cases—guys who can only last less than one minute, have “higher rates of depression and experienced bedwetting,” says Dr. Trost. “Those cases are pathological, but that’s only 1% of the instances we see.”
Dr. Steixner says he regularly meets with patients desperate to be “cured.” He tells those guys that their condition is normal. In fact, evolution says PE sufferers are actually more evolved than other men. But that doesn’t solve much.
It actually solves nothing, Doc.
But since people still need to feel those aforementioned things like sexual satisfaction and being known as the Pussy Pleasing Prince of Poughkeepsie, Dr. Ressel-Hodan, a cognitive and behavioral therapist, tries to solve some of the issues brought on by premature ejaculation through other avenues of pleasure.
“I have couples focus not on intercourse but rather pleasuring each other,” Dr. Ressel-Hodan says. This means both partners learning that sexual pleasure can occur even without an erect penis inside a vagina.
When the whole show doesn’t depend on your penis, it takes some of the pressure off. “The anxiety is then decreased because the fear of not meeting an expectation that was unrealistic is gone,” Dr. Ressel-Hodan says.
And when there are no more expectations, you just might find that little problem starts to disappear all on its own.
“Without anxiety, better control is obtained,” Dr. Ressel-Hodan says.
Dr. Trost employs similar methods, and reports between 45% to 98% success combating PE over the short term. The key is letting guys figure out on their own that difficult truth Dr. Trost wants to tell every PE patient during his first appointment with them:
“There’s nothing wrong with you, man. That’s just how you’re supposed to work.”
There you have it. If you constantly find that you’re one of the stock photo models sitting on the end of the bed after sex, just remember, there’s more than one way to skin that cat of hers.
[H/T TFM via Men’s Health]