It can be difficult to meet new people in a city. More specifically, it can be tough to meet women in a city. It seems that everyone’s post-college go-to spot to mingle with the opposite sex is a bar, nightclub, discotheque... Whatever you want to call it. Basically, somewhere that supplies large amounts of alcohol, dim lights, and loud music, all of which are factors to help you get laid. But, how do you meet women that you may want to ask out on a -- GASP -- real date? There has to be other options between being that creepy guy at a bar that tries to get in bachelorette party dance circle and creating an online dating profile.
We learn from movies and the media that women want to be hit on in cool and unusual places in a romantic and unique way. A lot of time when women do get approached in these places, they are easily creeped out. If you want to meet someone in a unique and fun way, then you have to be suave. You have to be confident, but not cocky. You have to be funny, but not over the top. Most importantly, you have to learn how to read her signals, and then go in for the kill: ask for her digits and ask her out on a date. Here are some places to pick-up women and some tips on how not to be creepy about it.
1. Happy Hour
Happy Hour can be a great place to meet women. More importantly, it’s a more appropriate setting and time of day to meet a woman at a bar whom you may want to ask out on a date. Happy Hours in every city are crawling with lots of young women. Bros, this is an excellent opportunity to meet many women at once, without coming across as creepy. If you are also at Happy Hour with a group of your bros, and you spot a group of ladies near you with a similar amount of people, grab your/ their server, and buy them a round of whatever they’ve been ordering. It’s classy and it’s opening the conversation in a non-creepy way. If they’re interested, then they will probably come by and say thank you or maybe buy your round of shots if they’re cool chicks.
2. Intramural Teams
Joining an intramural sport is a great and easy way to meet new people, especially ladies. There are even leagues that are specific to “singles." However, if you aren’t sure you want to take the dive into the singles pool, then join a team with a couple of your bros. If you sign up as an “indie” team, then other people who you don’t know can join your team, aka other women. Intramural sports such as kickball, dodgeball, volleyball, and softball are a great and easy way to bond with females. If you’re flirting with a girl and she’s looking “gross” in her work-out gear, she’ll probably think you’re more genuine. Also, in my experience with intramural sports, people mostly sign up for them to meet new people and go to the bar who sponsors your team after the game. Ladies are probably also signing up for these teams to meet dudes, so it’s a win win. Everyone’s down to party and maybe even have some sexy time after you win.
3. Grocery Store
This is probably one of the harder places to attempt to pick up a lady without being creepy. If you want to try this, definitely try to stay away from weird play-on-words with melons, apples, bananas, or basically anything that can be used to describe male or female genitalia. Don’t ask her if she has big melons, or likes her bananas firm. Keep those jokes to yourself, bros. She will not be impressed, even if it’s the best pun you’ve made in a while. Any grocery store that has organic or healthy foods will be full of young women, such as Whole Foods and Trader Joes. The best time or place to pick up a gal in one of these stores is while you’re waiting either in line to check-out or if you’re both waiting for your freshly cut salmon or steak. An easy way to start a conversation is to bring up a recipe for the fresh salmon or burger meat you just picked up. Ask her how she likes hers cooked, or if she likes cooking. It’s not creepy and it shows that you like cooking (which is a major turn-on for women). If you two continue chatting past the line you’re in, then ask for her number, or better yet, ask if you can cook for her some time. Maybe see who can cook a better burger? Everyone enjoys a little competition!
Concerts, shows, music festivals, whatever you want to call them, are all amazing places to meet women. If you’re both there, you obviously both have an interest for the same band, singer, or type of music genre, which already gives you an easy and non-creepy conversation starter. A good time to chat her up is when you’re both in line for a beer or before the show starts. Don’t try to chat her up while the group is performing. If you’re at a show where you’ll be dancing, maybe try to dance around with her and her friends. Don’t, I repeat, DO NOT try to grind with her. Girls love it when guys joke around with them on the dance floor. Ask her if she’s seen the group before, or what her favorite song is, etc. It’s easy, it’s not creepy, don’t screw it up.
5. Dog Park
If you have a dog, this is an excellent place to meet women. If you do not have a dog, don’t be a weirdo and just watch women place with their dogs. They won’t be impressed. In a perfect world, your dogs will start playing with each other. Maybe your dog will start humping her dog, and you’ll both have a laugh about it. You can even arrange for your dogs to have a playdate. Again, that is in a perfect world. In reality, your dogs will probably sniff each other’s butts while you two chat. If you hit it off, ask her out.
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