"Til death do us part," is usually a significant line of wedding vows, but nobody ever expects the death part to come hours after the happy couple tie the knot.
There's a lot of stress involved with getting married, but once the wedding is over all the weight is lifted off your shoulders. Unfortunately that wasn't the feeling for 28-year-old Fernando Brazier, who killed himself by jumping into the Harlem River just hours after getting married. Brazier left a suicide note for his new bride, Trudian Hay, at the front desk of the Radisson Hotel in New Rochelle, where the couple had just celebrated their wedding.
“He said [in the note] he couldn’t take it anymore, and to take care of the kids,” Brazier’s sister, Shawna Weeks, told the New York Post. “He left his ring in the envelope.” Brazier’s aunt, Lee Brown, said she walked up to him at one point before the wedding ceremony and asked if he was sure he wanted to go through with it. “He said, ‘It’s too late now,’ ” Brown said.
Brazier took a cab to 55 Richman Plaza about 15 minutes away in The Bronx, where he jumped either from a building or the promenade behind it, police said.
Brazier and Hay, 26, had dated since they were teenagers and had two young daughters together, ages 5 and 2 1/2, Hay’s relatives said. But Brazier had been depressed for several months, and he and Hays had had counseling, his sister said. “He would tell me that Trudy is a good person, [but] he didn’t want to marry her; he was feeling like he was pressured,” his sister Shawna said. Ouch. Maybe you should tell your future wife that you really don't want to marry her instead of spending tens of thousands of dollars on a wedding and then straddling your newlywed wife with debt and devastating memories.
His brother, Kevin, said Brazier often expressed his feelings in rap songs and recently sent him one about suicide called “Ambulance and Call in the Cavalry.