This letter was uploaded to Reddit by a Dad after he found smut on his son's computer:
'I want to start out by saying that I love ya and I'm not trying to embarrass you. Before you do anything else click the star in the upper right hand corner of internet explorer which is already pulled up and then click back on the icon to the right of the Skype symbol in your toolbar to pull this page back up. That history is the reason that you got that scam ware and all the other crap on your computer.
'I want to tell you that it's OK. Listen, I was 13 once too and it wasn't so long ago that I don't remember. I'm not mad or anything. It's life and I did it too. I just want you to know that most of those sites are places that can and will ruin your computer. You were actually lucky that it only did what it did. There are viruses and other scam ware that can completely ruin a computer and I can't afford to buy you another 1800 dollar machine because you went to a site that fried it.
'There are sites that are completely safe and you can go on them and not have your computer turned into a piece of junk. You can go to these sites and not screw up your computer. Don't click on any links taking you to other sites and please only go to these. Ninty percent of porn sites have crap that can brick a computer.
[He listed 4 sites here which you can find on the Reddit thread]
'Listen, I won't tell your mom and I'm not gonna make a big deal out of this. In fact I'm not gonna make any size deal out of it. If you don't wanna talk about it that's fine and I completely understand. I've been on this earth three times as long as you and there's nothing you have done or will do that I haven't done before. If you want to completely ignore this ever happened then I can and will do that too.
'Please don't act awkward around me because of this. You have nothing to be embarrassed about. I just can't have an 1800 dollar machine turned into a brick because you haven't learned where to go on the internet. I'm not going to put a child lock on your computer or punish you in any way because as I said you did nothing wrong. I would like you to not be back here so much though. You literally spend all of your time back here. I'd like to see you more often. I like doing stuff with you and miss it.
'I love you and I couldn't be more proud of you.'
Should I just approach him with it or is this the right thing to do.
UPDATE: After he went in his room he came right out and talked to me. Although it didn't last for more than five minutes I think it was productive. He thanked me for not getting mad or telling mom. I also talked to him about porn not being like real life and that women aren't objects like they are portrayed in porn. I gave him the option to ask questions but he said he didnt have any right now. I hope he does later. It went really well.
UPDATE: Seems some people haven't seen the comments. I shortened this up substantially prior to him seeing it and took some of the preachiness away. I also took away the part about it bricking his computer which I knew wasn't true but I was trying to scare him into not going to dodgy sites again.
UPDATE: Holy shit. My first front page post is about my son's porn……sigh
Father of the year? Father of the year!