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Q: So there's this girl from my hometown who now goes to school with me. She's really nice but not attractive, however she has many attractive friends both at home and school. As a guy I'm trying to hook up with as many of them as possible. Do I just go right after her friends or do I somehow consult her first in hopes that she helps me?
A: This is definitely a two-degree of separation situation and I applaud you for thinking it out a bit before executing.
This girl from your hometown is about to become this girl, who you're really good friends with, who has nothing but good things to say about you. Keep that up.
Flying colors of praise when her inquisitive, and sexy, lady friends (un)subtly inquire as to the status of your coolness, availability, and dick size.
Don't worry--it will be a positive thing when she can't answer the third inquiry-- not crossing any boundaries, and leaving an air of mystery.
Another point for the home team.
That's right; that's you, slugger.
Once the girlfriends have gotten confirmation of you meeting their standards- 1. nice 2. cool. 3. available 4. "and I mean like, he's pretty cute right?"-- the rolling admissions begin.
And you're sitting at the fucking deans desk.
You've become a safe, friend-tested, girl-approved target. Choose your own strategically and you'll be in a great place. Meaning, don't decide to just hook up with all of them, because as I mentioned last week, that's a great way to land yourself with a bad reputation and a whole lot of "sisters" to spread it. I'm not saying find yourself a nice girl and settle down, but I am saying to use this home friend as a MAJOR advantage, and to play your cards right.
If you do, you're riding high. At least until sophomore year.
Q: Do girls watch porn? I saw Don Jon the other day and it made me think maybe girls are more into it than I realize. Do they have subscriptions? Favorite sites?
A: Does the pope shit in the woods?
JK, I actually have no idea (or interest in) where he produces his business.
What I do know is that…there isn't really a status quo on this one. It's just not as cut and dry definite as with dudes.
It's a personal preference, that often isn't discussed amongst friends-- and a fairly polarizing one at that. Favorite sites? Maybe. Subscriptions? I sort of doubt it.
Some girls are actively and even vocally into it. Others are genuinely disinterested, disturbed or even disgusted. It can be intimidating, offensive and just plain fucking weird. So I say, to each his own.
And on that note, I'll decline sharing my personal involvement with the visual sport. It's none of your GOD DAMN business; and the cleared cache on my private browser will tell you the same. and so will my interwebs.
Q: I want to study abroad. Which do you think would be more fun Sydney, Australasia or Dublin, Ireland?
A: I hear Australia is pretty sweet. I've never been but from what I can tell it's a bunch of unruly drunks stuck on an island fist fighting in bars and grilling at the beach. Seems like everyone is pretty good-looking on top of it.
All positive things.
Still, I'll advise you on all accounts to choose a European destination for your short stint in foreign Lala land.
Of course it would be ideal to pick up a foreign language or two, and just as many foreign lovers if possible. But when it comes down to it, being overseas for one glorious semester is about the memories you make with the people you already know.
Long weekends, having visitors, making visits, Oktoberfest, Halloween, Euro table service, getting your blackberries lifted..
TAKE. ME. BACK.
As long as you select a destination you're mostly unfamiliar with that boasts a quasi-functioning government--but hey, who really needs that--you'll be in for the ride of your life.
Q: I've been in a rut recently, and its gotten my confidence pretty low. But how to a approach a girl and get some action?
A: These are the questions that should be reserved for Jedi masters, Kung Fu gurus or Gandhi. They're deep. They're intricate. They involve a lot more than a two-step solve. But since I'm the next best thing, here's my two cents.
Your rut is directly correlated to your aforementioned low confidence. Sure, it's somewhat of a chicken/egg paradox, but in order to escape the sinking quicksand you're in, you've gotta regain that confidence first.
Remember what it was that kept you scoring prior to rutville.
Was it your smile? Your gentlemanly behavior? Your general manswag?
Whatever it was, hone that shit. Bring it back to where it belongs and use it as the force you know it is. Approach girls with this confidence, and all the extra charm you've got layered on--and leave the bullshit of a low self-esteem at the door.
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