There’s something to be said for getting straight to the point. Why beat around the bush when just being straight-up and saying “Hey…if you wanted to bone sometime, I’d be okay with that. Just letting you know” is apparently the better move when it comes to getting laid? If you’re sitting there thinking “No way, that’s too up-front,” think again.
“They say the key to letting someone know you like them is to abandon all subtlety.
In a lab experiment, only 36 percent of men judged correctly, and for women, the number was 18 percent…
‘If you think someone is not interested in you, you are probably right, they are not interested,’ Hall [associate professor of communication at University of Kansas] said.
‘But if someone is, you probably missed it.’”
The study focused on 52 pairs of college students who sat together and talked, alone, in a room for 10-12 minutes. While they were told that the study was on first impressions, at the end of the 12 minutes the students were instructed to fill out questionnaires in separate rooms from the person they’d just talked with.
” While the pairs were more than 80 percent accurate in knowing when their counterpart was not flirting, they were far less accurate in detecting when they were being flirted with.
Only 36 percent of men judged correctly, and for women, the number was 18 percent.
‘Behavior that is flirtatious is hard to see, and there are several reason for that,’
‘People aren’t going to do it in obvious ways because they don’t want to be embarrassed, flirting looks a lot like being friendly, and we are not accustomed to having our flirting validated so we can get better at seeing it.’”
The same basic result came about in a second study when 250 people watched a six one-minute video clips of the people in the first study talking, in that when flirting didn’t occur, the participants of the second study were 66% accurate in discerning so. However, when it did occur, they were only 38% accurate.
In other less scientific and statistic-y words, you’re better off handing someone a Hallmark card that says “let’s bang!” than you are trying to be a subtle flirt.
…but maybe not quite like that.