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Relationship ruts are an unfortunate part of life. For a few months you think you found the girl of your dreams: Everything she touches turns erect, the sex is top-shelf, and life could only be better if she were into masochistic three-ways. But then one day sanity hits you — sanity and that thirst for variety. Sex with your girl goes from three times per day into three times a week, while masturbation fills your heart's void. Your girl is still as radiant as ever, sure, but your head is howling with confusion. Is she the one? Am I too young to be in a committed relationship? Has Pornhub been updated today? If so, is there time to skip a beat before she and I meet up tonight?
Call it what you want — quarter-life crisis, cold feet, or the fear of commitment — but the fact remains that it has become human nature for a man in his twenties to question his future with a girl. The moment things become boring or stagnant, or worse, troubles arise, a man's eye and imagination will start to wander, regardless of how in love he is. He'll consider breaking up, but we all know that can be a more messy venture than menstruation, and, in most cases, permanent. But I think there's a better solution.
Before a guy lets Frank and his two beans make an uninformed decision on his behalf and help him piss away a great girl, he really needs to sit himself down and figure things out. When a relationship reaches this point of uncertainty, there is only one way for a man to tell if it is eventually bound for the aisle or the trash compacter: Cheat, but only once. It will either scare a man straight or set him free (cue Skynyrd).
I am only proposing that the guy cheats once, with a complete stranger (see: loose girl at a bar), and not be a complete sc*mbag. And he should only do it if he is having these thoughts so he can satisfy his need to see if the grass is truly greener, and potentially better kempt, on the other side. After all, he'll get to satisfy that urge for unfamiliar relations and he'll see what feelings he has afterward. If he feels nothing, and thinks that he'd like to do this again and again then he should probably be single until he is ready for something more (see also: Tiger Woods). If, however, he feels remorse and a new appreciation for his girlfriend, we can then conclude that the experiment was a success, and this girl may in fact be the one for him. Either way, he will know what his next logical step needs to be and that is a clarity that he might not find otherwise. Whether that next step is a painful breakup or a trip to Jared (I hear chicks love that place), he will finally know what course to take.
O.K., so maybe we are getting a little ahead of ourselves with the whole marriage campaign, but the point is that we live in a different era. This isn’t the good ole days of courtship; this is the wild-f*ckin’ west and marrying your high school sweetheart is something that only happens in the movies and to suckers. Since the advent of free adult entertainment, men can't even masturbate to the same clip in the same session let alone watch the same adult entertainment video twice. We are as finicky as finicky gets and God dammit if that's ever going to change.
Facebook is another game-changer in the realm of relationships. On top of access to thousands of “real” girls, we are likely friends with all of our former conquests and other girls from our pasts. That kind of knowledge and photo access makes a man think. And that is the last thing you want. Plus, when our girlfriend then encourages us to be friends with her friends, that further sparks our realization that the sea is bountiful… and that all her friends look really f*cking hot in bikinis in all those July 4th weekend photos. Especially Nikki and her two-ton tits. Now I’m not saying that a guy should go f*ck his girlfriend’s friends, because that is semi-wrong, but these are the things in today’s society that make a man think about straying more than ever before.
It's time to throw old-fashioned ideals out the f*ckin' window. Today we need to keep finding new ways to test and maintain happiness in our relationships. So before we settle down and make a regrettable commitment, why not test the water to see if it's right; stick a toe in, or, in this case, the tip and its accompanying shaft?