First of all, it is important to realize that this is more for guys that have a girl in mind and that are looking to stand out. Some of the points below will actually only apply to guys who are already dating the girl. This post, will explain the subtle but important actions, behaviors, and personality traits that will help establish you as a gentleman, therefore separating you from most guys. Without further ado, here is a list of things to distinguish yourself as a gentleman:
Actions
When a girl in your group of friends or that you’ve been talking to is leaving a party or bar or anything of the sort, walk her to her car or where ever she is going. Even if it is just outside. If she says you don’t have to, just say it’s fine and do it anyway unless she is politely saying she wants to get away from you.
Open the door for her and let her go in first. I know that sounds obvious to hear, but MY GOD! I see guys let the door slam in girl’s faces all the time, and it just looks bad. If you want to see the hidden significance of this tip, try holding the door for a woman randomly. The chances are pretty good that you will receive a big smile and a sincere thank you simply because such few guys remember to do it.
Walk on the street-side of the sidewalk. This one is very subtle, and girls rarely notice it. However, if you come across a girl who does notice it, you have only shown that you thoroughly understand gentleman behavior.
If you ever find yourself meeting her parents or any girls parents for that matter, shake hands firmly with her father while making eye-contact and do the same with the mother only don’t use quite as firm a grip.
Behavior
Brush up on your grammar a little bit, so that when the situation arises, you can speak with confidence and get your point across respectably.
Read well written books to help your vocabulary. I understand that this is starting to sound like a standardized test guide, vocabulary can also help get your point across and can make jokes funnier, stories better, make you seem very smart.
Always be ready to standup for her, but not in a cocky way or overreactive way. This means that if, for example, some guy comes up and starts hitting on your girl that you just go and sit next to her and put your arm around her to give him the message. Obviously, this won’t always work in which case be more direct and tell him that you are her boyfriend and he needs to find another girl to talk to.
Always be there to give her advice. Offer to help her get through whatever it is she dealing with and if she says yes, then do it. If she says she is fine, then she is clearly not, but just tell her if she ever needs anyone to talk to, that you are there.
Be respectful and flexible, but don’t be a pushover. A gentleman avoids terms that make women seem like objects, and are willing to plan around a girls schedule. This does not mean that he disregards prior commitments and exhausts himself trying to establish a date. Be willing to say that you can’t make it that day, or that you aren’t entirely up for doing that tonight. If you say it straightforwardly and kindly, she will understand and will not be offended.
Personality
Be attentive but not overly so.
DO NOT TRY TO MAKE A POINT OF BEING A GENTLEMAN. Just be a gentleman. Don’t brag about it, don’t ask if she noticed, don’t look for praise. It is like volunteering and then asking for pay.
Be kind to everyone.
Think about what you say and how you say it.
Be honest.
IT IS VERY IMPORTANT THAT YOU KNOW THAT MANY OF THE POINTS ABOVE APPLY TO ONLY CERTAIN SITUATIONS. FOR EXAMPLE, IF YOU ARE AT A FRAT PARTY, DO NOT BUST OUT OVERLY COMPLICATED TERMS AND PERFECT GRAMMAR. IF YOU PLAY GOLF WITH YOUR BROS EVERY SATURDAY AND SHE WANTS TO GO ON A DATE ON THAT DAY, FEEL FREE TO SKIP GOLF THAT DAY AND SEE HER INSTEAD.
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