Hey Bro,
This girl at my school is smokin' hot and I am dying to hook up with her. We are really good friends and I don't want to date her but I would want to be her hook-up buddy. We are both curious about sex and stuff (We are in high school) and we talk to each other about it a little bit. However, we don't talk about it in the context of us hooking up. Is there anyway I can get out of the friend zone and then hook up with her possible later. I would greatly appreciate any help.
Sincerely,
Mini Bro
COMMENTS
Personally i dont believe there is such thing as “The Friend Zone”. It Honestly comes down to the sometimes hard truth, she either likes you or she doesn’t.
For you’re second part i would figure out if she really likes you and if you are alone do your thing.
Coming from a girl, I will say this is a massive generalization but it might help. Act like you don’t care, or better yet, talk yourself into actually not caring. This may seem counter-intuitive, but a lot of times girls are turned off if they know a guy friend likes them. The fact that y’all are friends means she already likes you as a person, and if you can find a way to make her attracted to you, you’re out of the friend zone. The easiest way to do that is be super attractive, but if you’re already in the friend-zone I’m going to assume it’ll take more than that. Girls often want what they can’t have- if you start ignoring her, you’ll seem unattainable, and will become more attractive to her. Again this is a huge generalization and not all girls are this petty. I started dating a guy that I previously saw only as a friend when he wasn’t around as much and I realized how much I liked him..
From what you are explaining you are indeed in the “Friend Zone” this is most likely because you didn’t seduce her. yes it sounds inconsequential but there is a point when she figures that you are not a sexual option anymore, and that is when she writes you off as a friend. The other scenario would be you just found you’re want for her and you were already friends. The problem with what the chick above myself said is that she already wrote you off, (most likely) pulling yourself away and not caring comes into place great before when the doors are still open, but you need to start something new. “open up those doors again” give her something to show you DO care, or you ARE interested. It sounds like she is still involved, meaning she is not showing signs that she is loosing all interest. some signs would be: you only start you’re conversations, she starts flirting with other guys in front of you, to drive you off and, she doesn’t get jealous or mad when you flirt with other girls. IT might be wise to try some of these things just to secure yourself. Anyways it should be pretty easy to let her know, with just a few signals that show her you are interested again. Something important you really need to understand is that when high school guys see a girl and decide they want her, they just try to act really cool, just like the other popular “cool” guys. But what girls really want is for you to be original, or even just chill. A chill guy, who is really good with words can get amazingly far with chicks than “that cool kid”. Make sure you give her something others cant, and that is how you will stand out.
Hope this helps!
Mini Bro,
First of all you are in high school a.k.a the land of kinky possibilities. This chick is a youngin’ like you and believe it or not, most girls are, yes, just as horny as you. My suggestion; start working your way in. If you’re in the friend zone, DON’T TALK TO HER FRIENDS about you and her. TALK TO HER FRIENDS and find out if she is indeed the little nymph you are hoping for. Girls are easily coaxed into your world of wishful thinking at this age. Tease her. Brag about your sexcapades- if you don’t have any yet, go make some. Let the word get out that, yes, you know how to work your man-staff in the sack. Do everything you can to get her mind thinking about the D. When in conversation with this little mynx, touch her- no not the the creepy pedophile way- make jokes, give hugs- all that high school bullshit. Finally, next party, tell her that you’ve heard some good things thru the grapevine about her…you know…bed-time activities. Don’t listen to Townes, he’s probably about as experienced as an amish boy fucking his first she-cow. If you’re having a hard time getting you’re hands on her at this stage, good news, you’re already in the friend zone- and thus she will be comfortable with your “world famous massages” that you’ll undoubtedly try at some point. Work your way down her chest (stop at armpit level, you don’t want to freak her out), use your hands gently and make sure you hit the lower back. At this point, Mini Bro, you are no longer the friend she thought you were, but a mysterious guy that she has no fucking idea what he’s capable of. FRIEND ZONE EXITED.
You’re welcome,
Slash