Today I read an article written by a women on why her peers aren’t getting asked out. Although it makes sense on why these women are not KEEPING dates (...boyfriends, whatever), I think she’s missing a really important point on why these people aren’t getting asked out in the FIRST PLACE. I am no expert on how to keep a man, as I’ve only had one serious relationship in my entire life and aside from that I tend to drive men away after a few weeks or so. However, while I am unable to write any kind of advice on how to hold down a successful relationship, I have been on quite a few first dates (15+). Some of them result in a second, or third date; others not so much. Many of my friends claim they never get asked out (by people who don’t previously know/love them as friends), and this is why.
1. She's SO unapproachable.
Do you walk around doing errands with your headphones in? Sunglasses on? What makes you think the hot guy on the street is going to stop you and start talking to you with your music blasting? K. You’re in the zone. So while John Mayer may be serenading you through Pandora, you will have difficulties finding a real-life boyfriend to sing you sweet love songs. Sorry but nobody is going to risk their life climbing a Ferris wheel just to ask you out.
2. She's a “Black-out Barbie”
I get you– Grey Goose is a girls best friend. However, while you may be fun as f*ck (worthy of some girls gone wild sh*t), you aren’t the girl guys imagine themselves settling down with. My best friend is the coolest girl I know, but she has this thing where she likes to blackout and then fall asleep at parties. I like to think that if I were a guy she’d be my first pick as a girlfriend, but why would I choose to date a girl with alcohol induced narcolepsy? Everyone loves a train wreck, its what gets you the most <3s on Vine, but nobody wants to fall in love with a train wreck. Love you girl, but get that handle out of your hand.
3. She puts out.
I understand that this is the 21st century and as women we can do whatever and whomever we please. However– that doesn’t mean your one-night-stand is any more likely to call you back. Whether you’re the bold betch who takes her top off at parties, or the girl who lures hotties into the corner, you’re f’ing up. If he’s hot as can be and you’re on vacation, go for it; have that night of fun. If you have this magical connection on the barstool, half-put-out (makeout) and leave him with your phone number. If he doesn’t call you, it wasn’t meant to be… and at least you didn’t give up your # (get it [;)] )
4. She's stuck in a rut
if every weekend you’re hanging out with the same crowed, going to the same bars/parties, you’re going to find yourself in an unfortunate situation. Your guy friend isn’t suddenly going to see you as girlfriend material if they don’t already. If you’re not meeting any new people whatsoever, you’re certainly not going to meet someone who is boyfriend material.
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